Why It’s So Hard to Be Kind to Yourself (and How to Start)

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We’re taught to be kind to others, but no one really teaches us how to be kind to ourselves.

For years, I was my own harshest critic. I forgave everyone else, but replayed my own mistakes over and over. Being kind to myself felt selfish, or worse lazy. But I’ve learned something important: self-kindness is not indulgence, it’s survival.

💭 Why It's So Hard

We're used to equating self-worth with productivity.
Many of us grew up hearing “don’t be too proud” or “don’t ask for too much”.
We mistake self-compassion for weakness.

🌿 How to Start Being Kinder to Yourself

Speak to yourself like you would to a hurting friend.
Replace “Why can’t I get this right?” with “What do I need right now?”
Celebrate small victories, getting out of bed is a win.
Create moments of gentleness: a warm drink, soft music, silence.


Try a deck of daily affirmation cards or a self-love workbook

Daily Affirmation Card or Self-love Workbook


Remember: You can’t pour from an empty cup and you don’t have to be “perfect” to deserve peace.

"It's not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It's necessary."

— Mandy Hale


If this spoke to you, you’re not alone. I share more honest stories, gentle reminders, and real talk about mental health, self-worth, and finding peace at your own pace.

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