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When Love Becomes Control: The Mental Health Toll of a Manipulative Partner

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When Love Becomes Control: The Mental Health Toll of a Manipulative Partner We all want love that feels safe, love that nurtures, respects, and uplifts. But what happens when love starts to feel like a trap? When words meant to comfort slowly confuse, and affection becomes a tool for control? Many people find themselves in relationships where manipulation is disguised as love. It can be subtle at first—so subtle you might even question if it’s real. But over time, this emotional manipulation can deeply damage your mental health and sense of self. What Is a Manipulative Partner? A manipulative partner isn’t always loud or aggressive. They might be charming in public, attentive in small ways, or even act like a victim to guilt you into staying. But their patterns tell the truth: They twist your words. They make you feel like you’re always wrong. They isolate you from people who care. They gaslight you, denying things they clearly did. They use love as a reward system: ...
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The Silent Weight I Carried: My Journey Working Abroad and Searching for Life at 37

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The Silent Weight I Carried: My Journey Working Abroad and Searching for Life at 37 This is me talking, at 37 years old.  At 36, I made a big decision, I moved to Canada to work and start a new life. I left my career, my mother, my brother, ash & coco, and everything familiar behind, hoping to build something better, something lasting. Now, I’m here in Canada, still fighting to find life for me . For the past 14 years, I’ve lived a life divided between duty and distance. Working abroad, far away from my daughter, I dedicated myself to building a better future for her. I worked hard. I survived. I sacrificed. I endured. But in the process of showing up for everyone else, I stopped showing up for myself. To many, I’m fortunate. I have a decent job. I own a house. I have food, and security. I’m grateful for everything I’ve achieved. But even gratitude doesn’t cancel out the quiet exhaustion that lives in me. The kind that builds slowly over years of loneliness, responsibility,...
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How Journaling Helped Me Heal

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How Journaling Helped Me Heal: From Chaos to Clarity There was a time in my life when my mind felt like a storm I couldn’t escape. I was in therapy, trying to understand myself, trying to breathe through the weight of emotions I didn’t yet have the tools to manage. That’s when I started journaling—not because I knew what I was doing, but because I needed somewhere to put all the noise. At first, I wrote down everything. Every negative thought, every fear, every spiral that pulled me under. My journal became the place where I could be brutally honest, messy, and completely unfiltered. I wasn’t writing to be wise or poetic—I was writing to survive. Writing Without Judgment I gave myself permission to put anything on the page. No edits. No shame. Even if the thoughts were dark or irrational, they had to come out. Strangely, the more I wrote, the lighter I began to feel. It was like pulling weeds from a garden—I had to see them clearly before I could understand what needed to be cleare...
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When Words Hurt: The Lasting Impact of Panlalait sa Katawan on Confidence and Mental Health

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When Words Hurt: The Lasting Impact of Panlalait sa Katawan on Confidence and Mental Health “Ang taba mo na.” “Uy, tumaba ka.” “Dati mas payat ka, anong nangyari?” In many Filipino conversations, comments like these are thrown around casually. They're often meant as jokes or observations, harmless, even affectionate. But for the person on the receiving end, these words can cut deep and leave lasting scars. This is “panlalait sa katawan”  a form of body shaming that may be common in daily life, butis never harmless. Let’s talk about how these seemingly small comments affect confidence, mental health, and our relationship with our bodies. 1. Panlalait sa Katawan and the Normalization of Shame In Filipino culture, teasing is often seen as normal or even caring. But when comments revolve around someone’s body, they do more harm than good. They send the message that: You’re only valuable if you fit certain beauty standards. Gaining weight means something’s wrong with yo...
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The Mental Load of Always Being the Strong One

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The Mental Load of Always Being the Strong One You’re the one everyone calls during a crisis. The one who keeps it together when everything falls apart. The one who’s reliable, calm, capable, and composed. You’re “the strong one.” And no one ever asks if you’re okay . Being the strong one becomes part of your identity, so much so that you forget who you were before you learned to carry so much. While the world admires your strength, they often forget that even strong people get tired. My Story: Strength Woven into Survival As a single mother, I didn’t have the luxury of falling apart. I had to keep going no matter how exhausted, broken, or overwhelmed I felt. I was the one my daughter looked to for stability, for comfort, for safety. I was the provider, the nurturer, the protector, the decision-maker. There was no one else. Just me. People would say, “You’re so strong, I don’t know how you do it.” But they didn’t see the silent nights I cried quietly so my child wouldn’t hear. Th...
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